DEAR DEIDRE: WATCHING EastEnders is more of a priority for my wife than sex.
She won’t even give me a kiss and a cuddle these days.
DEAR DEIDRE: WATCHING EastEnders is more of a priority for my wife than sex.
She won’t even give me a kiss and a cuddle these days.
We are both 52, are really fit, don’t smoke and have a healthy diet.
She has been checked out for any underlying health issues and was clear.
We have even been to couples’ counselling but she is adamant she will never be interested in sex.
She even stated in one session: “I’m never going to be interested in sex, even if I was married to Idris Elba.”
I’ve left it a long time but I want to know how to be properly loved.
DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, it does sound like you have tried very hard – without any success – to change her attitude towards the physical side of your marriage.
Sadly, the change you want will only come about if she is prepared to compromise on the issue.
If you feel you have reached a crisis point in your marriage, she needs to know that.
If she is still unwilling to make changes, ask yourself if you can stay in a marriage where sex is not a part of your relationship.
You might need some counselling alone to help you decide on your options.
In the meantime, I am sending my support pack How Counselling Can Help.
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